A Different Kind of Mother's Day

Vol. 5 No. 20 May 13, 2002

As hard as we try there are times when the special days we plan for just do not go according to plan. There was the time we spent our anniversary in the emergency room. There was the 40th birthday party that had to be postponed because of a snow storm. There was the Christmas we spent in a hotel with tiny borrowed a tree and homemade ornaments. Now, we have a Mother's Day without being with the mother of our home. Let me explain.

My mother-in-law had surgery last week and my wife has gone to help in the recovery process. So, instead of the usual Mother's Day rush to the restaurant after church to make Mom feel special we're doing things differently. We ate out last weekend before she left. Cards and notes and flowers will be shared a few days late. Conversations will be by telephone rather than face to face. So, Mother's Day 2002 is a bit different. It's different, but it is a good different.

You see, even though the mother of our children will not be physically with her children this year the lesson(s) she is teaching them (us) may be more powerful than any she could have planned to teach.

She is teaching what it means to willingly serve. She was not forced to make the trip, find a replacement for her students, and sleep on the couch (if you can call what she is sleeping on a couch). She is not being forced to make sure the medical team is doing what they are supposed to be doing. She is not being forced eat hospital food. She is doing it willingly and lovingly because she loves her mother and she wants to serve her.

She is teaching compassion. With the exception of the times one of our children or I have been sick have I seen my wife demonstrate such compassion. She is concerned about her mother's pain. She is doing her best to relieve the pain. She is doing everything within her power to make sure that her mother is comfortable and cared for. She is doing it because of the genuine compassion she has for her mother.

She is teaching the meaning of love. John said, "We love because he first loved us" (1 John 4:19, NIV). My wife is demonstrating a love that she first learned from her mother and is now passing on to her children, and her husband.

Mother's Day 2002 is different. But, it is as it should be. I would not want to change it if I could (Don't get me wrong, I'll be glad when she is home). I'm grateful for the woman my children call Mom and I pray that the lessons she is teaching will repeated in our own lives. I hope you and your mother had a wonderful Mother's Day and that the rest of the year is special as well.

May every day be a happy Mother's day,

Copyright 2002